aray!

just before i start working on our team’s task assignment for our next wedding, just need to blog about this.

i’m here at starbucks valero right now, waiting for j to finish with his Ayala Land meeting. syempre ang dami dami kong dala, yung bag ko, yung laptop ko, yung laptop ni j… kasi pag nawala sa kotse baka sakalin ako ng asawa ko kasi sa kalsada lang ako naka-park so kelangan kong dalhin lahat. sa sobrang dami, parang mukha akong hilong talilong. anyway, after 5 long minutes, i was finally able to arrange my table with the laptop and food then i turned my head quickly towards the road (i was seating by the glass window)… shit! naumpog yung ulo ko sa satrbucks sign! alam niyo yun, yung malaking sign, as in yung malaking sign talaga na naka-hang! aray ang sakit! of course, all the baristas and the guard turned to me. akala ko nga nabasag ko yung sign eh! hahaha!

yun lang. trabaho na ako.

shit! ang sakit pa rin! hahaha!

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1:27pm

i’m now in seattle’s best in eastwood. haaay! parang iniisa-isa ko na naman ang coffee shops sa pilipinas. i was supposed to go to heritage today after j’s meeting in makati (see above) kaya lang the money wasn’t remitted in time by the money transfer agent of my client so wala sa akin yung money. i thought of making abono kaya lang i realized that yung fund ko for abono ay ubos na kasi di pa naki-clear yung checks nung last na inabonohan ko kaya wag muna. talked to heritage. next week na lang.

decided to stay here in eastwood na (after js meeting) kasi will have food tasting with josiah’s later with one of our clients. josiah’s food is good so i’m pretty sure things will be okay. i’m supposed to also have a food tasting on sunday, sa josiah’s din kaya lang may prior appointment na ako. sayang! hahaha! on the other hand, the prior appointment is also a food tasting, with VS&F naman. haaay! di na natapos ang food tasting! mwahahaha!

so there… will get back to work na.

🙂

on being a wedding coordinator

i told myself that i would not use this blog to make kwento about my life as a wedding coordinator. aside from the fact that mauunahan ko pa clients ko sa pagkwento about their weddings (hehe!), i really think it’s unethical to talk about a client. siguro dala na rin ng training ko sa counseling. i realized though that i can write naman pala about the job per se so okay na. 🙂

i enjoy coordinating. it is stressful. it is tiring. you feel as if you were a slave for one whole day. but i enjoy it. i know it’s not the save-the-world job that i’ve always dreamt of (okay, okay, i know i can’t save the world!) and i’m not planning to do this my whole life (my sweet husband actually thought i wanted to be a wedding coordinator until i’m 40). but for now, i enjoy this. i realize that i don’t just like it because i’m still hung up on wedpreps but because i’ve always enjoyed coordinating events. gusto ko kasi talaga feeling efficient ako and what more can make me feel that way than organizing an event? at least you’ll immediately know how it turns out. and contrary to what some of my friends think na masyado ako nawili sa preps at hindi ko ma-let go kaya ako nag-coord, i actually told benz march 2004 pa that i wanted to be an events coordinator. nung time na yun hindi pa naman ako haling na haling sa preps.

my parents absolutely dislike the fact that i’m doing this right now. we had dinner with them last easter. just before dinner my mom and i talked and she gave me an earful about my being a coordinator (she already did this by calling me at 630 am last week just to “remind” me about my thesis). i was able to reason with her and even told her in a nice voice to stop nagging me. i thought i was off the hook. tapos dinner na. bernard and i were about to leave when my dad asked me about my thesis. naku po! ayun na! nagsimula na ang litanya. haaay! 😀 talaga raw bang iiwanan ko ang psych for events coordination? aba! sana man lang daw kung yayaman man lang ako. aside from the fact that i’ve always dreamed of becoming a top-notch psychologist, they said that the only way i can earn real money from this is if i get a cut from suppliers PF which they sure i won’t do (actually, tama naman sila kasi our team already discussed this and although there are suppliers who offer money, we decided not to accept it kasi we think it’s unethical). haaaay! to top it all, my husband laughed every time my father would make a joke (papa: “anak, hindi ka ba nakakahawak ng P10,000? tapusin mo na lang thesis mo.” bernard: “hahaha!” mama: “anak, masyado mo naman kina-career yan” bernatrd: “hahaha!”). i was so irritated with him that we argued on the way home. syempre biglang bawi ang mister ko ng “but baby, it is your decision naman. i will support you kahit ano pa man ang gusto mo.” achuuu! bwiset! pagkatapos mo akong pagtawanan sa harap ng magulang ko! haaaay!

oh well. for now, hindi muna ako pumupunta sa parents ko! hehehe! escaping ba? mabuti na lang bernard and i have this research project so they know i’m busy with the research and not just with coordinating. hehehe!

in fairness to my husband, he does support me. actually buti na lang talaga he does or else, i won’t be able to do all the meetings (palaging gabi meeting. at palagi akong sinasamahan ni jojie) and the coordination per se (he prepares breakfast for me and arranges all my stuff if we have a wedding, etc). and in fairness na rin to my parents, they also told me that as long as i finish my thesis, they are okay na with my being a coordinator. magturo na lang daw ako ng kahit na 6 units para hindi mawala sa psych circle.

i really need to finish na my thesis but where the hell will i find 10 high-SES couples with 3 to 4 kids with the eldest aged 10 to 12??? o di ba, ang hirap! haaaay!

oh well! for now, i like what i’m doing. i get to meet many people and get to befriend most of my clients. at the same time, i get to practice my counseling skills when the client gets so stressed na. so the bst of both worlds di ba?

🙂

surprise! surprise!

my surprise party was a success!!! i am so happy and bernard was so touched and… hmmm… surprised! hehehe!

my honey’s birthday was last sunday, feb 27, but since i didn’t want a sunday night party, i opted to hold his surprise party on the night of the 26th instead. isa pa, i think mas dramatic to have him blow his cake at exactly 12 midnight so 26 na talaga.

although i’ve been planning this since last year, it was only three weeks ago when i (and my mom, syempre, the ultimate party host) finally decided to have the party. the first person i told my daddy, jojie’s dad tapos yung family ni jojie and then his friends.

fast forward to feb 26… jojie and i woke up really early because we were going to the hospital for daddy’s tests and checkup. because matagal ang tests niya, and pila sa doctor’s clinic, and ang pila sa pharmacy, i arrived at my parents’ home around 1:00 na. when i got there, i immediately set to work. the menudo was being marinated na (my mom was making the menudo) and i focused naman on the pinanyahang manok. we made sure that the ingredients for shabu shabu was already prepared. around 3pm, i went to the supermarket to buy last minute stuff. nag-order na rin ako ng cake, pancit malabon, and inihaw na bangus (we were supposed to make the inihaw na bangus but one of our helpers, yung taga-luto talaga namin, took the weekend off). after making sure that i had all the ingedients and complete ko na ang dishes, i scouted for a flower shop. i didn’t have time na kasi to go to dangwa kaya ordinaryong flower shop na lang kahit mejo mahal, at least malapit lang at di na ko mag-ga-gasolina. i was able to buy gerberas. ang ganda nung gerbera pero yung stem mejo hindi na matigas. the flower shop owner, tito joey (o di ba close kami kahit na nun ko lang siya nakilala), taught me how to use wire to make sure na nakatayo yung gerberas sa vase. i also bought flower foam from him. on the way home, i passed by gazebo royale to buy silica sand (yung white na sand).

when i got home, i started preparing the roof deck. i set up the tables and the chairs (dineliver a couple of hours before). buti na nga lang yung ibang crew ng papa ko andun pa so sa kanila na lang pina-ayos ng papa ko yung tables at mejo mabigat rin yun. when my mom saw na maalikabok yung chairs, kumuha siya ng pamunas at isa-isa niyang pinunasan yung mga silya (o diba, ang bait ng mama ko!). after a while, diosa and marvin (w@wie friends) arrived. dinala ko na sila sa roofdeck para makapag-billiards muna sila habang naghihintay but diosa, ever-reliable diosa, offered to help. although i don’t normally trust other people (hehe!), i knew diosa wold do a good job kasi pareho kami niyan eh, ma-OC rin (btw, she was one of my friends who coordinated our wedding and kasama ko rin siya sa business namin) so i entrusted the table centerpieces with her. pinakita ko lang sa kanya kung paano yung gusto ko tapos siya na yung gumawa. we used the vases i borrowed from balay kandila (super love ko talaga sila ronald at tisha, biruin mo pinahiram pa ako ng vases. isang tawag lang yun, walang hesitation, pinapunta nila ako kaagad para mamili ng vases na gusto ko). ang ganda ng kinalabasan nung centerpieces ko, yung classic balay kandila setup na bulaklak na nasa tubig at may sand sa baba. instead of putting paraffin oil, though, since i wasn’t able to buy the wick balay kandila uses (mahal eh!), i had candles na lang put in small glass jars (the ones na natira from my gel candle favors) tapos for every table (each tables was rectangular and seats six) had the ala-BK centerpiece and two candles. ang galing ni diosa!

around 5:00, the san mig keg arrived. sobrang hassle-free talaga yun, yung delivery people pa yung nag-setup sa roofdeck so wala talaga kaming prinoblema.

around 6:00, i was already in a panic, hindi pa tapos lahat but i needed to go home na to pick up jojie (i told him that i was in shangri la for a meeting with diosa, abie, dowa, and teenee). syempre naka-uwi ako 6:30 na and akala ko galit na siya kasi ang alam niya we were having dinner with his family at cravings katipunan at 7:00. hindi naman siya galit. buti na lang i also had the presence of mind to ask his sister to tell him kunyari that they will be late.

when i got home, i took a bath na agad. and then, while jojie was making sure that all the windows were locked, etc, i told him na mauuna na ako sa kotse. when i got to the parking lot, inayos ko na yung kotse and when he got down, he was surprised to see me in the driver’s seat. i motioned him to sit in the passenger’s seat. nagulat siya pero he complied. pag upo niya, sabi ko, “ako na lang drive, upo ka lang jan at pikit ka.” tapos i used a hanky to blindfold him. sabi niya, “naku! ano naman ito?” sabi ko, “basta surprise, wag ka alala, sandali lang ito, mga 5 minutes lang. hindi tayo male-late for the dinner.” and we took off.

the whole time we were driving (around 7 minutes lang naman from our place to my parents place eh), he was trying to guess where we were going. sabi niya pa, baka raw mag di-dinner lang naman kami sa roofdeck (i did that na kasi on our 3rd month-sary). sabi ko, “eh paano na sila daddy, papunta na yun ng cravings?” “oo nga no,” sagot naman niya, “hmmmm…”

the funny thing was when we were near my parents place na, may dinaanan kaming lubak na may takip na bakal. narinig niya yung tunog nung bakal at sabi niya, “ha! papunta nga tayo kina mama, hindi ko makakalimutan yung lubak na yun. un lang ang lubak na ganun!” sobra na akong tawang-tawa pero pigil na pigil.

when we got na to my parents house, i made him go down the car. sabi niya, “tignan mo, paakyat na(sa garage ito), sa inyo lang ito eh.” “hon, wag kang maingay, maririnig tayo nila mama, may surprise lang ako sa iyo, hindi ko kasi pwedeng pa-deliver sa atin kaya dito ko na lang pina-deliver”

when we got to the roofdeck, everybody was there na. jojie still had his blindfold on. pinatayo ko siya sa harap ng lahat and then asked him to remove his blindfold para makita niya na yung surprise ko and he was really surprised! nagulat siya kasi andun pa yung high school friends niya (whom he seldom sees). he was so touched and happy. nakakatuwa. i was really happy because i knew that that was his first every birthday party na party talaga. 🙂

my husband is an introvert and he once confided to me that he’s natataranta when he needs to entertain many people from different groups but that night, parang nawala yun. he was able to mingle with his guests. naging biglang party person ang aking asawa! hahaha!

the party went well, i think. 🙂 the guests seemed to have a great time. we had lots of food. akala ko nung una kukulangin pero ang dami pang natira.

by 10:30, jojie was mejo tipsy na. it as probably the firts time i saw him tipsy. 🙂

around 11:50, i went to the kitchen to get the cake. by this time, yung mga pamilya namin tulog na (jojie’s family already left) kaya friends na lang ang natira. jojie was seated with don paul, his bestman, and paul realized na 12 midnight na at wala raw ako. kakatuwa si paul kasi parang nanghinayang siya na wala ako sa tabi ni jojie ng midnight. eksakto naman umakyat na ako, dala ko yung cake, with candles, of course. gusto ko kasi maraming candles so aside from the numerical candles, meron pa akong blue na maliit na candles. when his friends saw me at the stairs, they stopped muna their billiards game and their singing (nagvi-videoke sila) and sang jojie happy birthday. na-surprise na naman ang asawa ko. 🙂

the last guests left at 3:00 a.m. ito talaga funny kasi around 2:30, jojie was telling don paul pa na umalis na. sabi niya, “pare, birthday ko, gusto kong makipag-sex.” syempre hindi umaalis si don paul. tipsy na rin kasi kaya kung anu-ano na ang pinagsasabi. mga bandang alas-tres, hindi na gustong makipag-sex ni jojie, gusto niya nang matulog pero wala pa ring balak umalis si paul (inaantok na rin si percy, yung misis ni paul). sobrang funny kasi si paul at yung mga hirit niya tawang-tawa talaga ako kaya sa akin, okay lang na hindi pa sla umalis. pero si jojie talaga naman naasar na! hahaha! sabi niya sa kanyang kaibigan, “p***** i*** pare, gusto ko nang matulog umalis ka na, pwede ba!” hahaha! nakakatawa silang dalawa! 🙂

paul and percy left soon after and that endeth my husband’s celebration of his birthday. 🙂

on being a w@wie and signing off

posted this in w@w before i signed out. 🙂



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we booked our church and reception in november / december 2003, more than one year before our target wedding date. although naka-book na kami, mejo surreal pa for me the whole thing. parang hindi pa totoo na ikakasal na kami! hahaha! isa pa, we were also waiting for the babang luksa (first death aniversary) of bernard’s mom kaya parang hindi rin kami maka-plan talaga (talagang pinilit ko lang si bernard na magpa-book na ng church at reception. sabi ko sa kanya pag hindi ko nakuha yung date na gusto ko, hindi na kami papakasal! hehe!).

nakakatuwa yung thought na ikakasal na pero nakaka-frustrate pala wala kang kasama na nagpla-plan. i was the first one to get married among all my friends. ako rin ang unang ikakasal sa pamilya. although all my friends were happy for me, busy sila sa mga buhay nila at alam kong kahit na natutuwa pa sila para sa akin, weno ngayon naman sa kanila na ikakasal na ako no?

then i chanced upon the Bridal Pages and the Wedding Primer at National Bookstore. although hindi pa rin february nun, i bought the books. at least, sabi ko sa sarili ko, pangkasal yun dito sa pilipinas, unlike the millions of bridal magazines na for sale na imported naman at hindi naman applicable sa atin.

may mga ads ang w@w dun sa mga books (syempre, duh!). sabi “we’re more than a website, we’re a community.” nung una sobra pa akong cynical. i thought to myself “achuuu! totoo kaya ito?” then seeing the pictures of the w@wies and the quotes from those who already got married, i was enticed to join. hinanap ko talaga ang w@w sa yahoogroups and i “enrolled”. a coupel of days after, i was a certified w@wie!

nakaka-overwhelm ang mga emails! sobrang dami! tapos hindi mo pa kakilala yung mga tao syempre. pero nakakatuwa talaga. at last! there was this group of people who seemed to relate to how i felt and who understood why i wanted to tear my hair out over mundane wed preps stuff!

nung una, hesitant pa ako mag-post. kaka-intimidate kasi!!! but after my first query (i asked for quotations on beaches) at ang daming sumagot, okay na ako. wow! helpful pala talaga yung community (hehe! naki-feeling part of the community na rin!)

and that started my life as a w@wie. since i only had a part-time job, talagang kinareer ko yung w@w at ang wedding planning. pinagtatawanan ako ng dad ko kasi everyday pagkagising ko, i’ll check and read na my emails. yun na lang ang gagawin ko buong araw. hahaha!

i volunteered for the w@w5ive para makakuha ng maraming-maraming prenups. syempre pagkatapos nun, volunteer pa uli to segregate naman the pictures. sabi ng tatay ko, hindi na raw ako nagsawa sa kakatingin ng mga litrato ng mga ikakasal. at pati ba naman raw kasal ng may kasal, pinakikialaman ko! hahaha!

bernard was also cynical, at first. but when i explained the concept of w@w and i made him read supplier ratings, na-appreciate niya talaga yung pwede tulong ng w@w sa couples.

our wedding preps went fairly smoothly. there was a time i was contemplating na to go back to fulltime work but bernard and i agreed na sa dami ng DIY namin, hindi namin kakayanin ang pareho kaming may 8 to 5 job on top of the wedding preps (haha! halata bang wedding preps ang priority?).

not being a believer of online romances, i was pleasantly surprised to realize that friendships can really spring online (so na-realize ko rin na totoo rin yung romances). ang dami kong naging friends from w@w. since wala akong friends na makwentuhan about my wedding, buti na lang anjan yung w@wie friends ko na 24/7 ready to listen to my wedpreps concerns.

an advantage of having w@wie friends is that you have people who will back you up on your kabaliwan na ideas which your fiance will never approve of under normal circumstances. hahaha! naalala ko before pag meron akong gustong gawin sa wedding namin na mejo out of the ordinary at sasabihin ko kay bernard, ang tagal na usapan nun. pero once na sinabi ko na “eh, hon, — is also doing it” or “but, honey, — thinks it’s a great idea.” then okay na sa kanya, pwede ko nang gawin. pag may binanggit na akong w@wie friend, mare-realize niya nang pang-normal na tao naman pala yung idea ko at hindi lang pang-baliw na tulad ko! hahaha!

in the end, even bernard was proud of calling ourselves w@wies. i make him kwento about the juicy stuff here in w@w and if you mention a suppplier na sikat, he can make comments na. hehe!!

come wedding day, although there were glitches, our wedding was perfect for us. we were able to achieve the wedding of our dreams. lalo na ako, nakuha ko talaga yung gusto kong wedding (well, expcept for the palpak na projector supplier, that is). ang galing!

and we know that our wedding would not have been the way that it was if it were not for w@w. and for this, we are eternally grateful to you guys. really, thank you very, very, very much. *hugs*

and since every good thing must come to an end, i need to sign off now. around april, i told benz that i was enjoying planning my wedding so much that i wanted to be an events coordinator. she told me that i should wait until after my wedding to see if i’d still like it by then and to see what coordinating really entails. those were wise words so i heeded them. after my wedding, i helped coordinate a couple of friends’ weddings to see what coordinating does entail. and being a really OC person, i really find planning and all that delving into the little details very enjoyable (hahaha! nerd ang dating ko!).

galing sa kaibuturan ng aming mga puso, maraming salamat sa lahat-lahat.

🙂

clarice and bernard avinante 🙂