because of all the things i’m doing right now — wedding coordination, thesis (although hindi naman talaga), and this research study bernard and i are doing for a UK market research firm — i decided that to avoid being burned out, i need to give myself at least 30 minutes a day to just sit and be. i realized, too, that the best way to spend this half hour is to blog so i can organize my thoughts and put thing in perspective. i promised myself that three weeks ago and it’s just now that i was able to sit down and type my thoughts.
i am supposed to be cooking right now but something happened to our stove so i’m waiting for jojie to come home to fix it. actually, and this is a secret between you and me and the world wide web, i do know how to fix it but waiting for jojie enables me to: 1) blog; 2) watch an ally mc beal rerun; and 3) make jojie feel he’s the man of the house…. hahaha! the last one’s a joke. although i’m pretty handy around the house, having been my dad’s assistant around the house for most of my life, jojie does the “handyman” things around here. i must say, though, that since i’m home alone most of the time, it’s a really good thing that i’m used to fixing stuff.
i was in makati today to meet with a client and i had lunch with abie. although we’ve seen each other last week (in a wedding she helped us coordinate… more on that later), we really were not able to talk. so we took the opportunity today to have lunch and to talk and to make chismis about our other friends. hahaha!
it’s so funny how abie and i met. we were “forced” to stick together during the w@w5ive because our boyfriends were not with us. a couple of months after, we met again to go to dangwa and to divi. i introduced her to mang boy, she introduced me to divisoria’s bubble makers. from then on, she and i would talk every now and then to update each other about wedding preps and life in general and slowly, our friendship grew. although we’re in different fields and our life circumstances are different somewhat , we are in the same life stage and although she might not realize it, i learn so many things from her. and as mushy as it sounds (i know abie hates mushy stuff! hahaha!), i’m looking forward to planning our silver wedding anniversary with abie and my other w@w friends. 🙂
jojie and i are doing this research together. the research is about the wheat and wheat flour industry in the philippines. although it’s been hard (we’re on our fifth and last week of the project) and really stressful and tiring (case in point: we spent the whole holy week in coffee shops until after midnight), the research has given us an opportunity to work together. although we’ve done this before, working together as husband and wife is a whole lot different than working together as boyfriend and girlfriend. for one, when we were doing research before we had to stay at my house. we were so stressed that we argued many times. since i’m such a bossy editor, jojie and i quarreled a lot. with our current research, we have learned how to utilize each other’s strengths and how to take things in stride and how to be there for each other all the time. it has not been easy; there were times that jojie was ready to just give up and i had to be there for him and there were also times that i wanted to give up but he was there for me. i think this is what marriage is all about. working together and supporting each other, all the time. i’m not saying it’s easy because it’s SO not! but then, having jojie by my side makes the adjustment, the compromises, and all the changes i have to cope with worth it.