I grew up listening to my parents’ stories about their childhood. Although I did not appreciate some of their stories that time, I felt that I was part of a great family. Most stories stuck with me until such time that I was able to really realize how life was for them. When my mom was in college, she was already enrolled for the schoolyear when my Lola had to undergo an operation. My mom went to her school and withdrew from class. She also got the tuition fee as they needed the money for the operation. Listening to this story when I was 9 years old did not make much of an impact. Thinking about it when I was already 20+ years old, I realized how hard and humiliating it must have been for a teen-ager to do it. That realization made me appreciate my mom more and the life that she and my dad have provided for me. It also made me realize how petty my problems were and how blessed I was. Until now, when I have problems, I think of my parents and the things that they had to go through. They survived and are leading happy lives. I think that makes me believe that I will be also be able to deal with any problem that comes my way.
A few months ago, I came across an article in Reader’s Digest discussing how telling kids stories of their families make them more resilient and more self-confident; the more kids know of the histories of their family, the stronger their sense of control over their lives are. This sense of control, it turns out, is very important. When a kid (or an adult, for that matter) believes that he has control over his life (its is called internal locus of control) and believes in his capability, the better he does in so many aspects of life like emotional adjustment, school achievement, social interaction, etc. Di ba given a problem when you think you can actually do something, you will do it? And people who do not believe in their capacity to change their lives would, of course, not do anything anymore and will just entrust their lives to fate. Tutunganga na lang sila and of course, that leads to… nothing! So tama nga, if you think you can control your “fate”, you will work harder. It makes a lot of sense!
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