Life begins…

Since I was a teen-ager, my Mom and I would have discussions about life. One day, she told me that she finally understood why people say that life begins at 40. She said 40 was when she really knew herself and realized what she wanted in life.

Because of this, I never got scared of getting older. While other women wanted to be stuck in certain ages, I embraced getting older. I never thought of aging as a hindrance to success although I was praying that along with my age, my wisdom would also grow. Ang hirap naman tumanda ng walang pinagkatandaan. 🙂

Because of that particular conversation, I think I tried to reach my 40s earlier by doing away with all the dramas of younger years, letting go of negativity, knowing myself and knowing where my strengths lie, and just trying to be clearer with what I want.

I turned 40 this week. This life is so different from how I pictured life at 40 would be. You might ask – different good or different bad? Well, just different.


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Jia’s Mr. Glasses

I seldom share Jia’s writings because I think it’s very personal for her. But this I found so amusing that I asked her if I could share it with my friends. Luckily, she agreed. She wrote this a few months ago for her writing class. They were asked to write a piece from the POV of an inanimate object and Jia wrote a piece about her eyeglasses. (Also, because it’s a convo between inanimate objects, their language is “inanimatit” which was spoken by Mr. Glasses in the story when he was very excited. LOL!) A note about Jia’s “special” goggles: Jia is nearsighted and wears goggles with prescription lenses when she swims so she leaves her glasses.

Oh, all copyright belongs to Jia Avinante. 😉


Scene: Bed that is setup as a stage. News anchor (Mr. Wooden Block) is about to start his interview.

News anchor: Hi! Today we’ll be interviewing another very helpful member of the community. Welcome, Mr. Glasses!


Glasses: Hello! Thank you for inviting me. I was rather busy, you know, all the glass work, but when I heard your invitation, I was so happy! I knew that soon I’d be interviewed, you know, helping my owner, so yeah, here I am!

News anchor: I – we, I should say, (gestures around the stage) have a billion questions! First, what has been the best day of your life?

Glasses: Well, it depends. Are you asking about my whole life?

News reporter: Yes, yes I am!

Glasses: OK. The most wonderful day of my life was when I was bought. I suddenly saw things with a new light, and everything had new joy! I felt brilliant!

(speaks in inanimatit) I loved it! But then the excitement wore off. That was when she started dropping me. Oh, it was horrible.

News anchor: I noticed you said “was horrible”. Does she still drop you? If so, why?

Glasses: Of course, yes. But she picks me up ASAP. I’m rather delicate, and I’ve been broken. Here (points to right lens). I broke here once. I was crying my heart out, and the broken parts of me glistened like a diamond in the sun. And then I was rushed to the hoptical and the staff treated me like royalty. I heard someone say, “Fix him ASAP, his owner needs him.” I got fixed and after that I’ve never been dropped.

News reporter: (sniffing back tears ) So poetical! Have you, sir, thought of getting a degree in Coptical writing?

Glasses: (thoughtfully) No. I’d rather do Coptical drawing than Coptical writing.

News reporter: Can you draw for us?

Glasses: Of course! (draws himself and his owner) Here.

News reporter: Brilliant! You have a fine mind, sir. Now, where do you go?

Glasses: Everywhere she goes. I love it when we heely. We glide in BGC and it’s awesome!! Gliding along, we look around. It’s wonderful and beautiful, the world. Isn’t it?

News reporter: (wiping away a tear) Ah. You are a true poet.

Glasses: Thank you! But I have a rival. I cannot speak her name.

News reporter: Why? Who is she?

Glasses: She is a very special kind of goggles. My owner sometimes replaces me with her when she swims. We dislike each other very much.

News reporter: How could she? You are perfect, sir. Do not dwell on her.

Glasses: Thank you for the advice. (looks at clock) Oh, I’m sorry, but my owner is about to wake up. Better get ready.

News reporter: Thank you for your time and have a good day!

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The Story of my Life in Beads

Just to be clear (and yes, defensive na kung defensive… LOL!), I am not one to flaunt material possessions. I do not even like shopping for myself and my husband has to force me before I shop. But I am blogging about this because it means so much to me. <3

I was in high school when I discovered charm bracelets. I would go to Silverworks and look at their selection of charm bracelets. I had a couple of bracelets which I loved and wore all the time. I loved it so much that when I got married, my parents gave me a charm bracelet as a wedding present because they remembered how much I loved wearing one.

Today, this is my charm bracelet and it tells the story of my life right now. And I just have to say that I love it so much!


The bracelet itself reminds me of youth, of being carefree, of my parents and my family. And the beads are symbolic of the different aspects of my life right now.

From the left:

  • Stopper – this is a functional bead but, for me, symbolizes knowing my limits
  • Stay Positive – my optimist self
  • Green Waves – my love for the sea and the beach


  • Maternity – one of my most favorite beads; this bead is the reason why I wanted to have this bracelet

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  • Roses for Mom – yeah, it’s redundant with the Maternity bead but this bead was specifically picked by J; symbolic of how much of my life is dedicated to motherhood; symbolic, too, of how J honors my role in our family (I am blessed with a husband who explicitly tells me how much he loves me and how much he appreciates what I contribute to our family.)
  • Letter J – my husband, my partner, my anchor, my forever; J also stands for Julia, Jose, and Jasmin
  • Citrine – a stone for my protection
  • Letter C – my dreams, my goals


  • Flower – my love for nature
  • Three Siblings – my three Js; also symbolizes me and my two siblings
  • Oasis – to remind me that in every desert, there is an oasis; symbolic, too, of my love for the water


  • Faith, Hope, and Charity – values I endeavor to live by


  • Stopper – symbolic of the need for discipline in my life

Ang ganda di ba? Hahaha! Yeah, love your own!

And then because my husband loves shopping for me, J bought me this bangle with a golden rutilated quartz bead.


He bought me this after our meeting about stepping up our game to be better parents to our kids. He bought it because he thought it would be nice. I was actually scared to look up what the stone symbolizes. What if it symbolizes being a bad parent pala? Hahaha! Luckily, this stone is said to help amplify thoughts and to stimulate one’s ability to manifest desires! Buti na lang! Hahahaha!!

I love these bracelets so much, I am even wearing the charm bracelet now and I am just home! Yeah, alam ko… labo men! Hahaha! Bakit ba? Masaya eh! 🙂

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Teaching kids about happiness

I am a cup-half-full kind of person. Always have been. And one of my goals is to teach my kids that while happiness is a feeling, there are things we can practice to help us be happier. More importantly, I would never want them to believe that another person holds the key to their happiness.

Last year, Iana started the habit of asking me if I were happy. I do not know where she got the idea but I thought it harmless and sweet, even, as I felt how much she cared for me. Whenever I answered yes (well, I always was in a good mood whenever she asked me), I knew she was genuinely happy, too.

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A couple of months ago, I had a bad day. That night, while carrying Iana up the stairs, she asked me if I were happy. I stopped walking and asked her to kiss me. After she did, I replied that I was. She looked satisfied when she heard my answer.

For a couple of weeks, that became our usual routine. She would ask me if I were happy, I would ask her to kiss me, then I would answer yes. Of course, after a few times, she associated her kisses with my happiness (as any two year old kid would). I know most people would not see anything wrong with this. In fact, most parents’ joy centers on their children. Something was nagging at me, however; I felt that something was not right.

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#momgoal achieved

Last night’s conversation…

Jia confided something to me.

Me: Does it bother you?
Jia: Not really.
Me: It must bother you enough to tell me.
Jia: Oh! No! I just tell you everything.

And with her words, myheart burst with bliss! ❤

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Building relationships with our kids

My eldest daughter, Jia, is almost 9 years old. My youngest daughter, Iana, is turning 3yo. In terms of interests and play, their stages are vastly different. Jia’s interests are centered on tween stuff – – books, music (she’s a fan of Ed Sheeran), her writing, tinkering in the kitchen, Heelys. Plus she has a tendency to be absorbed with whatever she is doing and when that happens, she will just forget about other things. But because she loves Iana so much, she makes it a point to build a relationship with her. And because she knows from our Positive Discipline chats that to build a relationship, you have to spend time, she makes it a point to spend time with her (and Joya, too). In fact, she included daily dates with her siblings in her everyday routine.

The other day, I was beyond proud when I saw this reminder on her shelf.

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It was so heartwarming to me that she makes an effort to be close to her sister and to build a relationship with her.

Because parents have busy, busy schedules, we sometimes forget to build relationships with our kids. We are so busy providing for them and managing them and bringing them from one summer class to another, we forget that of utmost importance is the relationship we form with them. We forget that having a great relationship with our kids saves us from having to send them to therapy later on. Haha!

The importance of time

So how do we do this? How do we form a relationship with our kids? Well, we spend time with them. It was the inspiring Zig Ziglar who said that to a child, love is spelled T-I-M-E. And this is not being beside our child while we’re on our phones… this is honest-to-goodness playing, talking, learning what interests him, getting to know him as a person, knowing his opinions about things that matter to him (even if the things that matter to him gross us out. LOL!). It does not matter if their interests are not interesting to us. We should make an effort. Spend time.

When I think about it, it makes so much sense. I spent so much time with J when we were first going out to really get to know him. I invest time on friendships I want to nurture. I practice and practice and practice skills I want to master. Basically, I spend time on things I deem important.

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Connecting with kids shouldn’t be any different. We have to consciously spend time with them. (And no, time nagging them on things does not count.) It does not have to be hours (with work and all other stuff, who has hours?). Just spend ten minutes a day with your kids and watch them bloom!

With my super busy schedule (running a household, breastfeeding, homeschooling, being a wife, holding workshops), maybe I will do what Jia’s doing… I will post reminders on my shelf  so I will not forget to play with my kids. After all, I had them to be with them and be with them I will.


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Tatlong anak… bow!

My gosh! Tatlong anak!

Yun lang. Yun lang ang rason ko kung bakit nagbabayad ako ng domain at hosting pero hindi ako nagba-blog. #facemeettable


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